I thoroughly enjoyed doing a VIP day yesterday with a fabulous client! I am so excited for what is in store for her and her clients! Look out world!! This was our view of Torrey Pines for our VIP day.
Speaking of the world at hand, the issue of boundaries comes up a lot when I coach and speak. It doesn’t matter what age or sex a person is. Everyone goes through this from university students to grandmothers, from men to women. Everyone.
Read on to learn how to set healthy boundaries.
Boundaries are about taking control of your personal space, thoughts and time.
Here are 5 tips to setting healthy boundaries.
1. Be okay with saying no. It’s okay to say no to people. I remember reading something Cheryl Richardson wrote once. She said if it’s not an absolute yes, it’s a no. Live by this motto when deciding whether or not to do something. Another great way is to check in to see if it’s in alignment with your values. Take some time to figure out what they are if you haven’t already. It makes it easier to say no to something when it’s not in alignment. I like to call this a gut check. You will know in your gut if it’s the right opportunity / experience for you to participate in. Don’t do things because you think you “should”.
2. Know that being afraid to say no comes from not waiting to hurt other people’s feelings and caring what others think. Having the awareness around this is key. It’s okay to take a stand for your own life and business. This is how you are going to create the life you are wanting. If others aren’t okay with you saying no then they’re likely not people with whom you want to associate with.
3. Find the language that will work for you. Decide on a sentence that will be your go to when you are not interested in doing what someone is asking of you. Practice it often.
4. Your time is everything in business and you need to spend it wisely. If you are looking for friends and trying to satisfy some type of dysfunctional need then you are not going to make the best choices with your time. Stay true to your appointments and commitments, and watch what types of commitments you are making in the first place.
5. Value yourself enough to include time for you in your calendar. This will help you with your overall quality of life. Treat this time like an appointment with a client, and say no to experiences that impede upon your time for you.
Watch yourself thrive as you start to take control back over your time by setting healthy boundaries. You will feel empowered and realize it wasn’t as scary as you thought, and well worth it with the happiness it brings.